Moving Past the Mom Guilt
Do you cringe at social media posts that depict perfect quarantine home school set-ups? Are you constantly comparing yourself to every mom in every mom group on Facebook? Have you stopped doing things for yourself because you feel...less than?
Mom guilt. It's real and it's 1,000 times more prevalent these days as we navigate new roles as mom-teacher, mom-nurse, mom-entertainer, mom-maid, mom-mom. Every. Single. Day. All day. How can we feel good while we're surrounded by chaos?
Most of us are stuck in the mindset that we are doing this all 'wrong'. The kids are getting too much screen time. The house is a disaster. You did not, in fact, pen a novel or finally complete baby books for all your kids. All this and you know you desperately crave some time to yourself to recharge. And that's OK!
Most past the mom guilt, Mama!
What is mom guilt? "Whether you’ve never heard of mom guilt or can’t escape its relentless grip, it simply means that pervasive feeling of not doing enough as a parent, not doing things right, or making decisions that may “mess up” your kids in the long run." - Healthline.com
Contrary to what you may think, you are doing great. Even if your house is a mess and your kids haven't changed their socks in weeks, you're still doing great. And, you still deserve time to yourself and to find ways to escape the chaos of your new multiple mom-roles. But how?
We promise, you CAN incorporate self-care into your life without sacrificing your child's happiness or GPA! You CAN choose to make time for yourself...very simply.
Take a bath or a walk...alone.
Read the book that's collecting dust on your nightstand.
Plan a date night with your partner - check out our ideas here!
Nap with your little one.
Move your BODY! Remember just a few short (OK, OK, SUPER LONG) months ago, one of the best parts of Baby Boot Camp, the flagship class of MOMLETA, was that your child came to your workout with you? This model still holds strong even in the virtual class setting! In fact, you can choose YOU first now more than ever by setting your little one up with a craft or snack while you move! Or? Have them join in!
No matter if and how you decide to focus on you during this uncertain time, just know that no amount of guilt is ever going to be productive or yield positive results. Instead, affirm to yourself each and every day that you are doing your best and that this too, shall pass.
Are you part of the mom guilt club? How does guilt show up in your day?