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Self Care for Moms - Different Stages, Different Needs

Posted by: Anne Kilroy, Owner & Nicole Hujsa, Member, Baby Boot Camp Estero & Fort Myers Central, FL on Wednesday, January 15, 2020


The Oxford dictionary defines self-care as "the practice of taking an active role in protecting one’s own well-being and happiness, in particular during times of stress." Self-care is a hot topic right now, especially among mothers. What's interesting is that, while this definition is relevant across the multi-year journey that is motherhood, the actual practice of self-care takes on different meanings at different stages of motherhood. 

  • Some moms self-care by getting manicures, pedicures and massages.
  • Some moms self-care with meditation.
  • Some moms self-care with time with their partner or friends.
  • Some moms self-care in beautiful silence. 

Down to the details. What does this look like?

What's clear is that when your children are very young, you seek-out pockets (seconds) of time to tend to your personal needs. Alternatively, when your kids are a bit older (in school full-time, perhaps) you might schedule self-care between activities and household chores. 

We asked two moms who are in different seasons of motherhood to describe what self-care means to them. Here's what each had to say: 

Nicole, Mom to a 1 year old & 3 year old: 

"While I'd like to say I get lots of pedicures or time away from my household to go to's just not like that for me.

Maybe one day.

By the time I 'clock out' in the evening from my full-time job of being a stay at home mom to a 3 year old and 1 year old, I'm ready to watch Netflix and relax- or...sleep! Self-care doesn't always happen, but when it does it can be magical!

My current self-care includes a cup of coffee alone early in the morning. I set my alarm just in the off chance I actually sleep in. I tip toe out into the kitchen making sure not to make a peep - all while trying to function without the coffee I have yet to start brewing. Fingers crossed I can get this done before my daughter is singing, chatting, potentially crying or looking for me to snuggle with her in her room. Obviously, I look forward to those snuggle moments too. It's one of our few quiet moments, just the two of us. As much as I cherish these moments with my children, I must admit that I do still cherish a quiet moment alone.

Coffee is made.

I sip.

Even if I only get a few sips or half a cup while it's hot (it will definitely get microwaved) I'm golden for at least the morning routine with my two little ones. Hopefully this will set the stage for a peaceful day even though things might not be peaceful around me! There will be playing. There will be yelling, fighting over toys, and many other loud and crazy moments sprinkled in. There will also be lots of hug and snuggles with them in my robe that they both love so much. There will be no lack of  ‘I love you's, and kisses too. If I can give myself a little treat, a few quiet moments before my ‘job’ starts, I might just make it through another day in this crazy thing we call motherhood." 

Nicole has been a Member of Baby Boot Camp Estero & Fort Myers Central, FL since 2016 and is a 2019 Baby Boot Camp Brand Ambassador. When she joined Baby Boot Camp she recollects having zero mom friends. She felt very isolated and alone. Becoming a Baby Boot Camp Member not only helped her find the motivation to live a healthier lifestyle but also brought comfort and friendships within the tribe that have helped her through the many ups and downs of motherhood.

The two things Nicole loves the most about Baby Boot Camp are Mom's Nights Out and just being able to show up to class and have someone there who just 'gets it.' Even when she's not working out with her tribe, she depend son, shares laughs/funny moments, and even cries with these women who she considers her closest friends. 


Anne, Mom to a 9 year old & 11 year old: 

"My self-care has evolved as I traverse the many seasons of motherhood. Now with two boys, 9 and 11, both of whom are in elementary school, I assumedly have more free time for self-care. I? 

With both boys in school for over six hours most days each week I should have time for me. On the contrary, what I found is that those hours have quickly filled with daily tasks such as running my business, grocery shopping, errands, laundry, cleaning house…I could go on and on. I appreciate the opportunity to complete my daily tasks solo now. That almost seems like self-care in itself. Everything seemed so much harder when I had littles underfoot.

I mean everything.

Grocery shopping, running into the bank, pumping gas, or just going to the bathroom was so much harder with small children. Forget being able to easily make a doctor’s appointment. With this season definitely comes some ease when trying to carve out alone time.

This season is a quiet season.

It is funny to think I used to long for the peacefulness of my children’s nap or bed time. For the noise volume to reduce.

This season is also a lonely season.

I no longer have playdates and moms groups to depend on for social interaction and I find I crave adult conversation. I have found myself feeling lonely, which surprises me. Don’t get me wrong. I too found my previous seasons of motherhood to be isolating...but in very different ways.

My self-care now includes pedicures, an early morning run, and even simply a warm cup of coffee. All of these certainly help me better take care of myself. And, now I look forward to filling these moments with others. Instead of feeling fulfilled with these moments of self-care by myself, I love to include a good friend or friends who also crave a little quality adult time. My tribe fills the very quiet my growing children left behind. 

Who knows what the next season of motherhood will bring. One thing I do know?  Self-care as a mother will evolve indefinitely."

Anne became involved with Baby Boot Camp ten years ago when her oldest son was under a year old. Anne was inspired by the Baby Boot Camp program which helps moms to remain active during their pregnancy, and after, all while including their children in the experience. She enjoyed working out with other like minded moms and the interaction among their children. Shortly after the birth of her second son, Anne was bitten by the running bug. She has now completed many 5Ks, 10Ks, Half Marathons and is currently training for her second Marathon. Additionally, Anne became a certified Run Coach which has allowed her to develop and teach 5K, Half and Full Marathon training programs.

Wanting to return to the workforce, while including her family and fitness, Baby Boot Camp was the obvious choice. Anne purchased Baby Boot Camp - Estero and Fort Myers in June of 2015 and has enjoyed bringing the same great experience to many more moms in the area. Everyday she is inspired by the strong women she meets in her community and watching the support they offer each other in this motherhood journey.

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